I had a mother ask me today if the pain ever goes away. Well, I am sorry to say, that's a BIG NO.
I find that over the years the pain just gets deeper. Nothing can replace your child, no time can replace the heartache.
I think for me, we just learn to live with the pain. We adjust our lives to fit the pain in. We live around the pain. Some days are better than others. We learn to function in this world the best we can. One thing I hate to say but, " It is what it is ". Life keeps going on even if for us time has stopped. Coping with this can be very hard on parents. Everyone around you wants you to just be YOU again. Well, I can say this, you'll NEVER be that person again. I am not saying you can't be happy again, it's OK to be happy, to laugh, to smile, to live. This is what our children want most. They want for us to go on with life and be happy. You just have to learn to live again and to place your broken piece's of who you where into their new spots. This is possible and it takes time and the will to accomplish it. You can give yourself every reason to hate life, to hate others, to hate you but, why live like that? Do you honestly think your child wants that? I don't. I know first hand on how it feels about hating yourself or wanting nothing more than to be with your child. I know it's HARD and the pain is deep. But, what in life is easy? We can't stop living. We have to be strong and stand tall and make them proud.
Losing a child is a nightmare that I wish on no one but, there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel. You just have to be willing to put the work in.
So, does pain REALLY go away?
Ha! I WISH it did, cause it really hurts so much.
And I ask how was your day??
Be well with love, Candi
I find that over the years the pain just gets deeper. Nothing can replace your child, no time can replace the heartache.
I think for me, we just learn to live with the pain. We adjust our lives to fit the pain in. We live around the pain. Some days are better than others. We learn to function in this world the best we can. One thing I hate to say but, " It is what it is ". Life keeps going on even if for us time has stopped. Coping with this can be very hard on parents. Everyone around you wants you to just be YOU again. Well, I can say this, you'll NEVER be that person again. I am not saying you can't be happy again, it's OK to be happy, to laugh, to smile, to live. This is what our children want most. They want for us to go on with life and be happy. You just have to learn to live again and to place your broken piece's of who you where into their new spots. This is possible and it takes time and the will to accomplish it. You can give yourself every reason to hate life, to hate others, to hate you but, why live like that? Do you honestly think your child wants that? I don't. I know first hand on how it feels about hating yourself or wanting nothing more than to be with your child. I know it's HARD and the pain is deep. But, what in life is easy? We can't stop living. We have to be strong and stand tall and make them proud.
Losing a child is a nightmare that I wish on no one but, there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel. You just have to be willing to put the work in.
So, does pain REALLY go away?
Ha! I WISH it did, cause it really hurts so much.
And I ask how was your day??
Be well with love, Candi
I love it!!! so true and always love how positive you are even with the dark cloud of child loss that hovers over us like a stalker we can't seem to get rid of (that made u laugh right) LOL love you & your beautiful heart & beautiful and touching words and of course Kat
ReplyDeleteTy honey I love you too... and yes I really did LOL this time!!!<3 Hugs to heaven to our beautiful babieswithwings........(((((())))))
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